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Anxiety in Terms of Grief

One of the most important emotions present on the spectrum of grief is that of anxiety. Anxiety can be understood as a strong sensation of worry or unease, typically in anticipation of a future event whose result and effects are uncertain. In the context of grief, anxiety can be understood to be of two types. There is the anxiety present in anticipatory grief, the grief that occurs before the loss of a loved one, a friendship, a job, or a romantic relationship; and the anxiety present in post-loss grief.

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Building our New Normal

When my mom passed away, we needed to create our new normal.

Why a new normal? Why not a new life or adapt to our old one? Because when someone dies, nothing will be the same. So that is the NEW part. And the "normal" means that when we need to continue with our lives, the day-to-day needs to continue. So we needed to build a new normal. This new normal story has many parts, but today I want to share a story about how my dad needed to create a new normal and what that meant for us, his daughters.

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Grief From Stillbirths

The death of a child is one of the most difficult types of loss you can experience. It is estimated that in the United States, 26,000 families a year experience a stillbirth. Definitions of stillbirth vary, but it is usually considered to be the loss of a baby after 20 weeks.

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Mindfulness and Grief

There are a number of ways that mindfulness and meditation can help with grief. Impermanence is a core component of Buddhism, and practicing mindfulness can make us less uncomfortable with the idea that nothing can stay the same forever. This includes our grief, which is impermanent and ever-changing.

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Resilience in Grief

The Emotion Code explains it in a better way. Your emotions are trapped in your body. They are like energy pockets that are stuck in a variety of organs in your body. They tell your body that something's not okay. Depending upon what triggered them and for how long they have been trapped, they can cause physical pain, emotional unavailability, and even life-threatening diseases.

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How Do We Process Negative Emotions?

The Emotion Code explains it in a better way. Your emotions are trapped in your body. They are like energy pockets that are stuck in a variety of organs in your body. They tell your body that something's not okay. Depending upon what triggered them and for how long they have been trapped, they can cause physical pain, emotional unavailability, and even life-threatening diseases.

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